- Both husband and wife needs to agree that the boundaries / wall is important.
- Set your boundaries of where the wall will start. For example: We are careful about movies, we don't go or meet anyone of the opposite sex alone, our computers are in the open family room, etc. Agree on these boundaries and keep your distance from them.
- Celebrate with each other the commitment that you have made to keep these walls of protection around your marriage and family. Be sure to let your spouse know you are making this commitment not out of guilt but because you love and respect them. Enjoy the comfort of knowing your marriage is being protected.
- Remember your commitment to your spouse daily. Pray for your spouse Tell them if you are struggling. Your spouse needs to be that accountability partner. They need to know when you are weak. In your weakness, your spouse can be strong for you.
- Forgive. This is a hard one. If your spouse crosses the wall, you have to have the heart of forgiveness. Trust is broken, and hearts are shattered but that wall needs to be repaired. Trust your heart and remember the commitment you have made to your spouse and to God. Odviously , according to what act was done, the act would have to be dealt with accordingly. Rely on God for your direction as well as wise counsel.
You need to build this wall together, Ntandem. But if you have a spouse that is not ready or is not comfortable to do that with you, you take the stand and you build a wall that you see would protect your marriage. Let your spouse know that you are making a commitment to them to keep your marriage protected. Don't drill it in them or give them the guilt trip. Respect your mate and let them know they mean so much to you and your marriage is a priority to you so you want to protect it.
Walls do crack, break and crumble if left alone. This is a constant work that needs to be done. It will make you and your spouse feel secure in each other and give a renewed celebration of what commitments you have made with each other.
Build your wall, make it strong and seal it with love and prayer.
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